Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter and Organize to Make More Room for Happiness

by Gretchen Rubin

ASK YOURSELF, “IS THIS POSSESSION MOVING AROUND?”

Creating order—even with things as mundane as socks or supplies—gives a disproportionate boost of energy and cheer.

When we’re feeling blue or overwhelmed, it’s tempting to indulge in a “treat,” but we often try to make ourselves feel better by giving ourselves treats that make us feel worse.

One of my favorite unhealthy treats? Telling myself, “I can’t keep things orderly, I’m too busy. I deserve a break.” The problem is that, for me and for most of us, the mess just makes us feel worse.

small daily task, if it be really daily, will beat the labours of a spasmodic Hercules. ANTHONY TROLLOPE

“Don’t wait to clean your apartment,” she said. “I thought I didn’t really like this place. But now that it’s in such good shape, I realize how nice it was all along.”

of the most pleasant aspects of clearing clutter is that once we get rid of things we don’t use, need, or love, we boost our enjoyment of what we have. After I’ve cleared out my closet, I find it much easier to get dressed and I wear a wider variety of outfits, because I like all the clothes I own and can find everything easily.

Having less often leads us to use our things more often and with more enjoyment, because we’re not fighting our way through a welter of unwanted stuff.

The irony is that just as outer order contributes to inner calm, inner calm contributes to outer order. When we feel serene, energetic, and focused, that’s when it becomes easier to keep our surroundings in good order. It’s a virtuous cycle. For me—and for many other people—when it’s easier for me to hang up my coat, it becomes easier to go to the gym. A clear desk helps me to write an unpleasant email with less waffling. Change fosters change.

Getting control of our possessions makes us feel more in control of our fates. If this is an illusion, it’s a helpful illusion—and it’s a more pleasant way to live.