My parents often like to go to Chinese restaurants, and I used to think this was related to a dietary pickiness, but I am learning that they just want to go places where they know they will be interacting with and supporting people who will talk to them like people, who will treat them and see them as whole. To be Asian in (North) America is to keep a short running list of places where you know you will be given the gift of being seen as more than a visitor.
