But, even as I own up to my wrongs, I wonder if it’s ill-advised to call attention to the lesser parts of myself. What if the truth about my character is not that great and this is how word gets out? Not to mention: once I say out loud that I was wrong to toss or undermine or shirk, I can’t keep tossing, undermining, or shirking. Being a permanently better partner than I have been seems unlikely and a hair ambitious. It’s a daunting combination: exposing our crappiest selves and creating expectations of personal change.
