When the fact of your being is used as a weapon against you, the process of relearning who you are and what your value is, is a long one. I don’t know that I’ll ever be finished. I don’t know that I’ll ever be fully there. But I’ve learned I can’t be the first person out there calling myself a faggot just to get it out of the way. That’s not how one stays safe and that’s not how one creates community.
