The Modern Break-Up

by Daniel Chidiac

Lust is quick to assume and tormenting to the mind. It doesn’t truly understand the other and makes irrational decisions that generally make no sense. It’s fake; it’s surfaced. With lust, you can never really be comfortable being yourself. And yeah, of course I need to be attracted to someone to be with them, but if it’s only that, I find myself ignoring the fact that I’m not really connecting with them, and that’s wrong. Real love feels better. It’s more available. It’s long conversations. It’s feeling like you can call that person at any time of the day, but more importantly, not being scared that you’ll look desperate in the process.

That’s when you can lie in bed with someone and feel safe, secure, and build a life with them.

‘No matter how attractive a person’s potential may be, you have to date their reality.’

At the end of the day, we choose who we dedicate our time to and who we allow in.

think the difference between an intimate relationship and a friendship is attraction, but once the attraction has passed, you either lose touch or become really good friends.

A life partner helps brings out the best in you; they don’t take advantage of your weaknesses.

You can’t force someone to evolve with you. It either happens naturally with effort from both sides, or it doesn’t happen at all.

“What matters is what’s in someone’s heart. That should be the first thing we look at after knowing we’re attracted. Because if you don’t like what’s in their heart, nothing else matters. I think many of us have become so distant from our own soul, we ignore people’s hearts completely. We stay fixated on their surface qualities or want to control the situation. We have to see beyond that and accept what we’re shown about someone’s true character. Whether it’s positive or negative, we have to make decisions according to that,”

I acknowledge that people might not be who I assume they are or who they claim to be when first meeting them. There is liberation in understanding that. It’s not being pessimistic; it’s being realistic.

so many people think they want a relationship but don’t want to face the realities that come along with it.

most people don’t even understand what commitment means anymore.

We have to think of how it will affect them, not...

It’s a team effort. I also believe that there has to be a great level of respect. Someone can love you and still do things to disrespect you. But when someone truly respects you, they won’t do things that they know will hurt you.

I think we have to accept each other’s individual lifestyles now, stop thinking we own this person, and be freer in our love for them. That, to me, is love in the twenty-first century.

To let each other be what they want and to make sure they can both accept that before making the commitment.

Until we accept the freedom of new while committing to those fundamental values of old—such as respect, support, selflessness at times, an...

Love is beautiful, not always energy-draining. Love is understanding, even in times of hardship. Love is compromising. Love goes both ways. Love is hard but should be equally rewarding. Love takes time. And yeah, love is the scariest thing in the world sometimes, but when it’s real, you find the courage to be who you want and say what you want to that person. It’s more comfortable. It’s not so closed off.