The Modern Break-Up

by Daniel Chidiac

They notice beautiful qualities. They’re the women they see as being the mother of...

“We’ve all been infatuated with someone who isn’t right for us.

Your intelligence just needs to override your emotions, and that will take time,”

follow your heart, but take your bra...

you will choose the right person when ...

A life partner helps brings out the best in you; they don’t take advantage of your weaknesses.

You can’t force someone to evolve with you. It either happens naturally with effort from both sides, or it doesn’t happen at all.

I believe girls are truly stronger than guys, even though they don’t think it sometimes. I’ve noticed girls will put themselves out there and risk being hurt more often.

They’re more courageous than we are.

I think it was just convenient for him to keep sleeping with you on his terms. It doesn’t mean a guy doesn’t like or respect you if he’s sleeping with you, but I doubt he will want more if he hasn’t pursued it yet. If a guy’s been seeing you a lot and is serious about it, he’ll involve you in his life. He’ll invite you to things he gets invited to; he will take you to family gatherings to meet everyone—”

I think people do in general. But if a guy really wants more with you, he won’t try to sleep with you immediately. It won’t be his only agenda every time he sees you,”

“I think you’ll know by his actions what stage a guy is at. We always say people give us mixed messages, but I think we know.

I don’t even have to tell you this stuff; you know it in your heart. It doesn’t matter what else he says or tries to make you believe,”

If they don’t want to see you because you won’t sleep with them every time, I doubt that’s the guy who will make you happy,”

Everyone is searching for different things; you have to accept that.”

“So many girls get it wrong. They think the guy who is distant and doesn’t show much emotion is strong, that subconsciously he is a ‘man.’ They are confusing what a real man is. Let me tell you, most of those ‘men’ are the most scared people I’ve ever come across. Some of them are the weakest I’ve ever met. Behind the hard shell, they fear,”

“What matters is what’s in someone’s heart. That should be the first thing we look at after knowing we’re attracted. Because if you don’t like what’s in their heart, nothing else matters. I think many of us have become so distant from our own soul, we ignore people’s hearts completely. We stay fixated on their surface qualities or want to control the situation. We have to see beyond that and accept what we’re shown about someone’s true character. Whether it’s positive or negative, we have to make decisions according to that,”

“You never know anyone fully, no matter if you’ve been with them for a whole lifetime. We are always learning about each other. You both have to be open to that. It’s the only way you can adapt for so long.”

when someone rejects me, it’s not always a reflection of me. Timing is a big factor when meeting someone.

Someone can love you and still do things to disrespect you. But when someone truly respects you, they won’t do things that they know will hurt you.

“You’ll know instantly when you meet the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with.”

We’re trying to understand how much it all means to us. I

think we have to accept each other’s individual lifestyles now, stop thinking we own this person, and be freer in our love for them. That, to me, is love in the twenty-first century. To let each other be what they want and to make sure they can both accept that before making the commitment. Until we accept the freedom of new while committing to those fundamental values of old—such as respect, support, selflessness at times, and loyalty—most will still be very lost.

Love is beautiful, not always energy-draining. Love is understanding, even in times of hardship. Love is compromising. Love goes both ways. Love is hard but should be equally rewarding. Love takes time. And yeah, love is the scariest thing in the world sometimes, but when it’s real, you find the courage to be who you want and say what you want to that person. It’s more comfortable. It’s not so closed off.

We’re all different;

The great thing about experience is that it teaches you what you really want.

You’re fucking tough. It was like someone slapped me in the face and woke me up. I’ve been through so much shit and I survived. I’ve gotten through everything life has thrown me and am still here standing.

“Life is something that you just can’t work out.”

From this day forward, my freedom lies in knowing I have choices in my life, and I’m the one who makes them. My life is mine; it’s what I choose for it, it’s who I choose to have a part of it. And knowing I have that power over my life makes me smile. I feel freer. I feel alive again.

Sometimes in life, there is no way out, but there is always a way through.