The Modern Break-Up

by Daniel Chidiac

Weird things happen to me when I’m faced with a guy I’m really attracted to. I feel like I have to prove that I’m not desperate.

I went to a Yoga retreat and I party sometimes. We all have our way of letting go.

The girls had wanted me to go out with them last night, but I’d just wanted to have a night in on my own. Sometimes I can’t deal with the whole social thing. I want my own company, and I don’t want to see anyone.

“He just wanted it on his terms all the time. He got upset when he wanted to be friends and I said no. He was so selfish. It was all about him. I offered him everything. He rejected it, so in the end, he got none of me. I’m not a toy to be played with when someone feels like it. I’ve learned to be like this … it helps me not get taken advantage of,”

feel like I’m too extreme. I don’t think I’m cut out to be with someone. I either love them too much or I just don’t care. It’s always one way or the other.

“Closure comes from knowing ourselves, knowing our worth, and finally realizing what we deserve. It’s seeing the other person for who they really are, not who we’ve made them to be in our head.

I have made mistakes and definitely dated them, but it’s all a part of my life; it’s all a part of my story. Call me a dreamer, call me an idiot, but I won’t give up on the hope that one day a true, lasting relationship will meet me halfway. I put up a big wall sometimes, but I want to spend my life with someone special. I’m not afraid to admit that anymore.

When I give someone a chance, it’s in the hope that maybe, just maybe, they will be the one I don’t have to play games with. Equal attraction, equal love, equal goals.

Real love feels better. It’s more available. It’s long conversations. It’s feeling like you can call that person at any time of the day, but more importantly, not being scared that you’ll look desperate in the process.

We want someone when we want them, and when we don’t, we don’t. It’s sort of sick. Most people look for the closest exit when things aren’t working out because they can just replace someone with the next swipe.

“You have to stop expecting people who don’t love themselves to love you the way you love them.”

‘No matter how attractive a person’s potential may be, you have to date their reality.’

a big reflection of someone’s character is how they treat you when you’re vulnerable.

At the end of the day, we choose who we dedicate our time to and who we allow in.

“You don’t need to get back to your old self. You need to build a new self with the new knowledge you have about human beings.

In my opinion, it would be much harder to stay friends with a guy who I’m even slightly attracted to if it never is explored. I think the difference between an intimate relationship and a friendship is attraction, but once the attraction has passed, you either lose touch or become really good friends.

A life partner helps brings out the best in you; they don’t take advantage of your weaknesses.

There’s a quote that says, “The one who cares less holds more power.” But I don’t think it’s about caring less than the other person; it’s about staying who you are and not losing yourself just to please someone else.

If someone wants to be in my life, they will be. If not, I’m not going to keep chasing.