The Modern Break-Up

by Daniel Chidiac

You can’t please everybody; you just gotta be yourself.”

I think a lot of the misunderstanding in the modern dating scene comes from not communicating properly.

You speak to someone so much, and then they act like you never shared any real connection.

“Honestly, social media has become a way for people to send subliminal messages. We try to get someone’s attention by liking their picture or make them feel a certain way by posting things ourselves. The times of openly expressing how we really feel to someone are going. It’s time for all these hidden messages now. We’re all getting weaker.

And besides, when you stop chasing them, their mind automatically starts wondering what you’re doing.

They wonder who you’re with and whether you really needed them as much as they thought. And that’s exactly what you want them to think.”

“Closure comes from knowing ourselves, knowing our worth, and finally realizing what we deserve. It’s seeing the other person for who they really are, not who we’ve made them to be in our head. I don’t think he really knows why he acts the way he does. I don’t think he truly knows himself. If anything, your closure right now is knowing how confused he is. You want a man, not a little boy,”

“Stop torturing yourself,” she said. “You’re trying to find any way to understand what happened, but you can’t. You don’t understand him because he doesn’t understand himself. If he did, it would be clearer to you. There is nothing wrong with you. It’s all in your head. Anyway, you shouldn’t have to be someone else to suit anybody. You are who you are, and you don’t give that up for anyone,”

Next time, don’t sacrifice the person you are to suit somebody else’s insecurities, jealousy, or lack of love. And stop letting your happiness be solely dependent on

someone else’s mood. That’s how it got with you in the end. You changed. He brought out the worst in you,”

Equal attraction, equal love, equal goals. Wouldn’t that be amazing?

In a world that seems so connected, yet so

far from having real communication, we crave it.

Real love feels better. It’s more available. It’s long conversations. It’s feeling like you can call that person at any time of the day, but more importantly, not being scared that you’ll look desperate in the process.