The Modern Break-Up

by Daniel Chidiac

“Honestly, social media has become a way for people to send subliminal messages. We try to get someone’s attention by liking their picture or make them feel a certain way by posting things ourselves. The times of openly expressing how we really feel to someone are going. It’s time for all these hidden messages now. We’re all getting weaker. It’s like, if you want to text, text. If you want to call, call. Make proper contact. And if they make out they’re interested and then don’t respond positively when you actually reach out, FUCK ‘EM!” Zara said.

“You know, to love the wrong person or to be obsessed with someone can be like a drug. Having a bit of it feels good at the time, but it’s not good for you.

They say if addicts just get over the hurdle with no drugs, they won’t want it anymore. It’s the same as this. You gotta cut the snake off at the head. Having absolutely no contact is the best thing for you. You really need to give it time to fade,”

“That’s crap. If you can’t act like yourself with someone you’re seeing, then who can you with? You’re just not cut out to be with a dickhead like him.

A lot of people are mentally ‘not all there.’ They’ve been hurt; they’re insecure and scared to be themselves. They don’t want to let people in. We’ve all created this vicious circle of everyone fucking over everyone. We’re all making each other vulnerable. We’re all scared to look too interested. We don’t want to scare people off, but by tiptoeing around, we aren’t being ourselves, and that’s always a recipe for disaster. Then again, sometimes I feel like we’re all hypocrites in the dating world.”

closure doesn’t come from knowing why the other person did it. Sometimes I don’t think we ever get it from them, especially if someone has really deep issues they’re scared to face—”

“Closure comes from knowing ourselves, knowing our worth, and finally realizing what we deserve. It’s seeing the other person for who they really are, not who we’ve made them to be in our head. I don’t think he really knows why he acts the way he does.

I don’t think he truly knows himself. If anything, your closure right now is knowing how confused he is. You want a man, not a little boy,” she

most times, people will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.

I need to change my whole mind-set about this and see people by their actions, not who I want them to be,”