The Modern Break-Up

by Daniel Chidiac

There’s something great about not being genuinely interested. Because then I have more power within myself. I’m not vulnerable. I can stay who I am and think clearly. When I’m too attracted, I lose all of that. I lose control.

Do you know what’s fucked? You speak to someone so much, and then they act like you never shared any real connection. I don’t get it.

Real love feels better. It’s more available. It’s long conversations. It’s feeling like you can call that person at any time of the day, but more importantly, not being scared that you’ll look desperate in the process.

‘No matter how attractive a person’s potential may be, you have to date their reality.’

A big lesson I learned was that, most times, people will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.

They say getting your heart broken is similar to grieving a death. I have experienced deaths, and it honestly wasn’t as bad as being rejected by the only person I thought I wanted love from. Most people who have died didn’t have a choice. You learn to reason with that. But to have someone you gave your heart to say, more or less, “I can be with you, but I don’t want to be,” is like seeing the person you thought was dead living another life and being happier because you’re not in it. That abandonment was the worst feeling I have felt. It was hell.