this sharing was yet another courageous act of change. It pushed against the polarities in her family, where there was too much focus on the incompetence of one member and not enough focus on the incompetence of others. Later, when she was ready, she shared with Claire some of her problems with men and openly acknowledged that this was her significant area of underfunctioning. She also asked her sister for advice and help in areas where Claire had a history of expertise.
