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January 8 - February 9, 2022
Intimacy makes it hard to stay angry.
Love, when bathed in romance, does make the world go round.
It is hopelessly hopeless, boundlessly devotional, totally spontaneous—and utterly, inescapably charming and enticing.
Romantic love makes us experience eternity
‘Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.’
In love there is a coming together of mind, body and soul.
‘Money, people, position did not matter to me. I was content in loving.’
‘No. Only her. No one but her!’
‘I feel like you ordered, and I was delivered to you.’
‘Apne pyar ke saath tum is badi duniya ke ander ek choti duniya banati ho.
Our beloved becomes a one-point-stop for everything as our needs for others cease, even if temporarily.
He/she is closest to understanding and perhaps feeling our pain and happiness.
‘To love is to derive satisfaction from observing the welfare and fulfilment of the loved one… I know I love you because it makes me happy to see you happy’.
Even when the person is not there physically, we feel complete in their thoughts.
‘It is as if an invisible presence is filling you up, making the sunset prettier, the breeze a musician and the moon your personal chandelier. The world indeed is my oyster.’
The beloved knows you like...
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When lovers kiss, the world pauses.
caught in the chaos of romance!
Romantic love is notoriously precarious—obsessive, erratic, consuming, fleeting, exhilarating, depressing.
Is love enough to make up for the differences in personality?
‘Openness is an indicator of how smart you are. Because then you can assimilate conflicting views much easily.’
Loving has two phases—loving the person because of who he/she is and loving the person despite who he/she is.
Passion is a strong drive towards knowing each other.
Relationships or partnerships are not built on expectations but on conscious and constant nurturing.
‘Love is used as an excuse for disrespect. That is intimacy’s biggest problem.
‘There must be room for hate in love…’
‘I did not know what he/she meant to me till I pushed him away’
The human impulse to say ‘mine’ in the sphere of love is very strong.
The act of hurting the other does not undermine the act of loving.
In our intimate relationships once we are ‘happy’ we want it to be ‘for all time’. We want a lockdown. We desire stasis! We try and freeze the settings.
We cling to the ones drawing away, judge them, use emotional blackmail, threats, and social control.
Experiencing desire/lust is acceptable, but ‘conditions apply’.
A friend once said, ‘If you want to know someone, sleep with them’.
Desire fades…period.
Alone is not a nice space to be in.
you cannot really know someone unless you have lived with him or her.
