He fell into this strange undefined category—he wasn’t a total off-limits straight guy, not a firmly-in-the-friend-zone bro like Jasper, neither too old nor too young, but until recently he’d occupied the same slot where I put most people who annoyed me, and I wasn’t sure I wanted a few nice gestures moving him into some jiggly gray area where I started noticing the way his hair swooped forward or the way he bit his lip when he concentrated.