The Rudest Book Ever

by Shwetabh Gangwar

The world doesn’t give a flying fuck about you. This world is a place full of people that will come in the form of friends, lovers and well-wishers; in the form of emotional adhesives, neatly packaged dreams and aspirational lollipops; in the form of saviours, fixers and salespersons. We are gonna talk about them all.

If the prime motivation is: A baby is a cute little thing that will change our lives, well, that is not good enough. There is a high possibility that you’re gonna be creating another moron on this planet.

Learning of any kind that involves zero investment of your thinking produces only imitation.

He is old, hence he must be wise is one of the stupidest notions we take for granted.

The moment a kid touches the age of thirteen, parents should break out of their stupid characters and start looking at their kid as an inexperienced adult.

you need to understand that specialness is earned.

Specialness is the badge of realisation you earn. It may seem very simple to you, but this thinking can change the course of your life. Any achievement dictates you have created or mastered something. This means that not only did you gain in terms of knowledge, but you built habits of discipline, hard work, prioritising and focusing—habits that will serve you in almost all aspects of life.

Achievements can be personal as well; for example, learning a new language, which has the same consequences of something won on stage. It will give you knowledge, self-belief, useful habits, it will create opportunities and give you status in the eyes of people. Any achievement—personal or public—is a thing of uniqueness.

right to feel special must be earned and must only be yours to give.

Whatever I do, I do it for myself, because I want to prove to myself I can do it, recognising that whatever you do in turn impacts the world.

Because whatever I do impacts the world, I shall and must become better, so I can impact the world for the better.

Those who hold prizes, positions and power are sources to learn from—and nothing else. You know nothing about their lives except for their abilities. Admire the fact that they have those abilities, and leave it at that.

Specialness then becomes a collection of skills, and feeling special is the sensation felt on upgrading in life after having mastered a skill.

So, what is it that you want? Do you want to be an individual or a fucking follower? If you choose individual, then start investing in whatever draws the attention and interest of your self. That is your thing, dude. Investing in it and growing it is what separates you from everybody—that is what makes you an individual, because you are doing your own thing. Put whatever you find intellectually stimulating above what everybody else is doing. Fuck them and fuck that.

You are accumulating self-worth from the appreciation of others. That is the root of your problem. Not people who are better than you.

Your problem is your motivation comes from the outside, and you have labelled outsiders as the ideal source for your motivation. If you want to be crazily motivated to do anything, a hundred per cent of the reasons to do that thing will have to come from the inside. Words like ‘others’ and ‘them’ will have to be replaced by ‘myself’.

is, you can’t and they can—and this is where we started. You can’t please everybody. You can’t control anybody. What you do control is yourself, so why not put all of your focus there? You are a nation, after all.