The Rudest Book Ever

by Shwetabh Gangwar

achievements create immense self-belief; I can do it because I have done it before is an amazing thought to have at the back of your mind, guiding you. Also, achievements are rewarded with more opportunities, and give you status in the eyes of society.

If you can give it a definition, redirect it, and set them up to earn what they already want, you will have saved them years of confusion, embarrassment, self-imposed feelings of inferiority, foolish pursuits and a focus on weaknesses. You will instead have given them an attitude that will serve them for a lifetime.

This means you have never consciously devised a way to make yourself feel better.

This is a big world we live in, with a lot of people. You’re just one of them. And sadly, the world doesn’t revolve around you, which kinda leaves you with very bad odds.

they realise they don’t need anybody’s approval, as doing what they want to do gives them purpose,

Once you reach a conclusion derived from your thinking, it is called a realisation. And once you realise something, your perception changes about it once and for all. And that perception remains locked down until another realisation impacts it—that’s the process of learning and growing.

So, from today, start noticing what activities and wants of yours are controlled by you, and give you satisfaction in doing them, not just a short burst of pleasure; the activities you feel positively possessive and sure about. And screw those activities you do to escape from the duties and responsibilities of your life—they are gonna fuck you over in the long run.

Your depending on others to make you feel worthy carries the equal risk of others making you feel unworthy. Why don’t you give all that power to yourself?

We should admire heroic actions, encourage them and celebrate them; we should aspire towards incorporating them into our lives. But we should leave those people to be people, and to act like people—that’s a great thing they are doing, I really admire it—and spare the person from your dumb expectations and assumptions regarding things you have no data about.

There is always new data that could render your explanations inapplicable. Your explanations are the best that your mind could come up with at this moment. This keeps you humble and hungry. This also sharpens your mind more as you try to surpass yourself by coming up with a better explanation.

When you ask, All right, what’s the solution? Your focus goes directly to the problem, not feelings. Therefore, your reasoning takes charge, not your crumbled state of emotions. And when your reasoning is in charge, you gradually discover several truths.

You are not them. If they are ahead of you, don’t make them your enemy, nor become their follower simply because you may not want to go where they are going. Both competition and being a follower have the tendency to corrupt your original motivation to do that thing.