What about people you want to be friends with or desire romantically? Your expectations from them come from a perception which has no real data backing it. You are getting hurt, disappointed and affected by rejections from people you have no data about. What you have is impressions of them, first impressions to be precise, which is debatable data, or unreliable data, to say the least. Here’s how it happens in your mind, stepwise: You notice a person, and you think, Hmm. The ‘hmm’ can be caused by multiple reasons: they are physically attractive, appear to be warm, friendly, fatherly, kind,
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