Without a foundational principle on how to see failure and rejection, whenever you don’t succeed in something you care about, the first thoughts are: I am a fucking idiot, I am nothing, I am a loser, I don’t deserve anything, I deserve to die. In many cases, these feelings are accompanied by fear of your parents’ wrath, friends’ judgement, people’s disappointment. How am I going to tell my parents? Everybody is going to think I am a loser. I am good for nothing because my friends got through. Everybody is going to move on, and I will be stuck here forever. Some of the worst outcomes are:
