Very specific conditions are needed to acquire relational-brain skills. The same conditions are not needed to use relational-brain skills. Acquiring skills requires interaction with a better-trained brain. Identity and character-building, relational skills are almost entirely nonverbal and are learned in the first two years of life. When missing skills are remediated, the process is still nonverbal, based on attachment, and requires real joy but needs much more practice because the brain is no longer in the critical-growth phase.
