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book. I need people to understand that there is no such thing as “making it.” That no matter how much money you stack, fame you achieve, or success you taste, there are going to be more struggles in your future. More drama to deal with. More obstacles placed in your path.
The goal is not just to be successful. It’s about learning how to sustain that success, too.
Be fearless. Most people run from what they’re afraid of. I run toward it. That doesn’t mean I think I’m bulletproof (I’ve learned the hard way that I’m not) or that I’m unaware of danger. I experience fear as much as the next man.
But one of the greatest mistakes people can make is becoming comfortable with their fears. Whatever is worrying me, I meet it head-on and engage it until the situation is resolved. My refusal to become comfortable with fear gives me an advantage in almost every situation.
If you can establish that equilibrium, you will be in the position to get the very best out of your team.
I never chase money. I evaluate every new venture based on its long-term potential, not on what the first check I get is going to look like. The reason I do that is I have supreme confidence in my own value and ability. I’m secure that as long as I’m betting on myself, I’m always going to win.
don’t care where you come from or what you look like—if you’ve created success, I want to learn from you.
One of the secrets to getting what you want in life is creating the perception that you don’t need a thing. That can be a difficult energy to project—especially when you’re struggling—but committing to that perception will make you more attractive professionally, personally, and even romantically.
My first instinct is always to build positive and mutually beneficial relationships with people. But if someone isn’t interested in being friends with me, I’m more than comfortable being enemies with them.
What separates those people from the pack is that instead of complaining about or hiding from their losses, they actively seek to learn from them.
You’re never going to find lasting success until you take full responsibility for what happens in your life. No one owes you anything. Just as you don’t owe anyone else. Once you accept that fundamental truth and accept that you control your journey, so many doors that seemed closed are going to open up in front of you.
found writers like Donald Goines and Iceberg Slim who wrote in a voice that felt familiar to me.
So me
Their style made me comfortable, and once I had that, it gave me the confidence to start exploring authors who didn’t come from the same background as me. Writers like Don Miguel Ruiz, Paulo Coelho, and one who has even become a close friend and collaborator, Robert Greene.
Sorry, but a few clicks or scrolls just aren’t enough. I’ve found that you need to learn about multiple examples and read about multiple scenarios before certain principles start to sink in.
Whichever principle it is that resonates with you, hold on to it. Carry it with you until it becomes a part of your life.
live on the edge. I’m only free because I’m not afraid. Everything I was afraid of already happened to me.
If there’s one trait that has defined me since an early age, it’s fearlessness.
The difference is I refuse to allow myself to grow comfortable in those fears. Comfort, I’ve learned, is a dream killer. It saps our ambition. Blinds our vision. Promotes complacency.
You don’t have to lose your mother, or survive getting shot nine times, to develop the belief that you can survive anything that happens to you. That the only thing you can’t overcome is never taking risks in the first place.
It was more that I didn’t like having my success ride on someone else’s ability or inability to perform. It’s a feeling I haven’t been able to shake to this day.
I needed a sport where if I lost, it was my fault alone.
But, maybe because I was the youngest, I felt a little bolder and my big mouth got the better of me. As soon as the guy was finished on the bags, I called out to him. “Hey man, you look good hitting that bag,” I said, loud enough for everyone in the gym to hear. “But that bag doesn’t hit back.”
HAhaha
“We gonna have some champions come out of here, because these little niggas crazy.”
HAhaha
I hadn’t opened my big mouth just to get it fed, but that’s what ended up happening. It was an important lesson for me to learn. You need to bend fear into moments of action at every opportunity, because the fearless not only recognize but also often reward one of their own.
Amazing!
coddle
Treat in An indulgent overprotective wy
I learned that if I didn’t like getting hit, then I needed to do something about it.
That’s the kind of parent Allah Understanding was to me. He taught me to brush off being hit and get back to what I was doing.
If I lost, it wasn’t because I’d been backed into a corner and beaten down. It would be because I’d gone for what I wanted and had simply come up against someone with more skill.
Learning how to get punched in the face only increased my insensitivity.
When fear interrupts your routine, or makes you rethink it in any way, it’s gotten its hooks deep in you and will hold you back forever.
“Cowards die many times before their deaths,” wrote Shakespeare. “The valiant
instead of being afraid of getting hit and just giving up, do the things that make you a difficult target.
concession
A thingthuat is granted especially wt was demanded
The number one fear every child experiences, no matter where they live or what their circumstance, is losing a parent. It’s built into our DNA.
I don’t think there’s anything positive he could add to my life now.
Lol
“When my son came into my life, my priorities changed, because I wanted to have the relationship with him that I didn’t have with my father.”
don’t want to do that, but sometimes when you’ve been hurt a lot—and you’ve done your share of the hurting, too—it feels best to walk away.
The only way to access that kind of confidence is by putting in the work. That’s it.
Have you truly dedicated yourself to learning everything that you can about your field? Do you give 100 percent every time you walk in the office, sit down in the classroom, or step onstage for an audition? If the answer is yes, what do you really have to be afraid of?
You’re going to have to project the confidence that you belong, that you’ve got the answers, even if the people you’re talking to aren’t giving you the credit. All your hard work isn’t going to be worth shit if you’re not ready—no, determined—to share it with the world.
mogul
An imporatant powerful person in an industry
He’s scared to raise his hand because he doesn’t want to give the wrong answer. He’d put in the work, but in the presence of those executives’ self-assurance, he lost faith in himself.
If you’ve put in the work, and know your shit, raise your damn hand! Every single time. There’s nothing worse than being someone who’s spent hours—even when you’re off the clock at home—studying your company’s reports, but when your boss asks for that information, you always let someone else provide it first.
So when your boss looks at that person, she sees someone who is active. Who is participating. Who seems passionate. When she looks at you, she doesn’t know what to think. Maybe she doesn’t think anything at all.
think, “Yo, what is wrong with you, bro?”
haaha lol
You won’t know how heavy the load you’ve been carrying around all these years has been until you finally put it down once and for all. The moment you do, you’re going to feel nothing but freedom.
Graças Silva (later known as Graças Foster)
“It has been a very long story of hard work and personal sacrifice.”
If you’re not hustling your absolute hardest, you’re never going to reach your full potential in life.
A strong work ethic is the one trait all successful people share. I’ve never met anyone at the top of their industry who wasn’t fully committed to their job, who was willing to give anything less than their best.
