Your Blue Is Not My Blue: A Missing Person Memoir

by Aspen Matis

thought about how an admission of uncertainty is so often, in our culture, seen as weakness. Yet it is only when a mind admits I do not know that it becomes open to unseen possibility, and honest inquiry. It’s as if discovery becomes possible only when the fixed channels of one’s mind become electric, charged with the untamed energy of wonder. In this way, humility is the necessary precondition for all learning. When you believe

I thought about how we have to feel accepted in relationships as we are. How, spending so much time with one chosen person, we need to feel totally comfortable to be ourselves in their presence. Not picked apart. Not pressured.

An experience of discomfort by design, the act of vulnerability is an access, a portal to more-profound connection. And bold honesty, this terrifying method of self-exposure, is also the medium for enriched and strengthened bonds.