Your Blue Is Not My Blue: A Missing Person Memoir

by Aspen Matis

“Every person exists in their own shallow bowl, and they can’t see over the rim,” he explained. “But they think that their world is the world—the truth. When in reality, no two bowls are identical, and all people are stuck trapped in their own.”

There is no way to prove that your blue is my blue,” he said.

As philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti observed, “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”

I thought about how we have to feel accepted in relationships as we are. How, spending so much time with one chosen person, we need to feel totally comfortable to be ourselves in their presence. Not picked apart. Not pressured.

“Have you read Joseph Campbell?” she whispered. “In every hero’s journey, there is something or someone who gets you from point A to point B, the place you didn’t know you needed to go. A mule.”