Perhaps they’ll excel, too, at being partnered while raising little kids. In his 2017 book, The All-or-Nothing Marriage, psychologist Eli J. Finkel points to research which found that, compared with 1975, spouses were spending far less time alone together—fewer date nights, less seeing friends—but doing almost three times as much shared parenting.13 Maybe that’s why Gen X parents often complain that midlife marriage can feel like running a daycare center with someone you used to date.
