The truth was, I didn’t push myself forward in the same way Ed did. Ed did it naturally. He presumed things would open up, that he would be welcomed. He presumed privilege. For me, it was something I had to work on. I never felt like I could presume acceptance of my ideas, of myself. I found myself being deferential to men, even when I didn’t mean to be. When I was growing up, men were expected to be the head of the household.
