When you negotiate and debate, you do it in such a way that you recognize that the other side has a right to speak. While making a point, you address yourself to the argument and not the personality. Views are attacked, but not the other person’s self-esteem. “Character is not the enemy of self-expression and personal freedom, it is their necessary precondition,”22 Wilson wrote, because without these there cannot be an exchange of ideas or orderly familial and communal lives.
