Be strong, they say. For what? For whom? Is grief not allowed when you have experienced a loss? There is no need to be strong. There is no need to suppress your pain. You are entitled to the questions that fill your head. The whys and hows are natural. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. But please know this: it isn’t your fault. There was nothing you could have done. You have the right to ask questions and you have the right to fall apart. You don’t owe anyone an explanation when you are alone at night and your grief overtakes you. I
