3. Time: Using time as a disrupter is another way to pull yourself out of the mental mess swimming in your head. We tell kids, “When you’re angry, count to ten.” I say count to twenty-four hours. I actually have a twenty-four-hour rule that I follow when I receive an email, call, or text that I don’t like. Because my default typically is to tell someone to go fuck themselves (hello, F3 response), I’ve learned that it’s better if I step away, knowing that response won’t help me in the long game, nor will it make me look good. When I use Time as my disrupter, I make sure not to focus on my
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