Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't)

by Carolyn Elliott

Here are some example answers to the prompt: As an all-powerful being, I currently find it richly entertaining to play a game wherein it seems my ultimate value and strength are dependent on what other people think of me. . . . so I need to meet certain qualifications to “prove” that I'm valuable and “win” the game. Other people and the judgments that they have are my adversaries in this game. I'm trying to be so perfect that “they” can't possibly negatively judge me. When I play this game, I work myself into a state of feeling anxious and spread-thin. Whenever I fail to meet “the qualifications,” I get to feel guilty and afraid. The more I do this, the more separate and alienated I feel. It's amazing.