This is an insight that can be very, very offensive to our egos: the idea that on some level we could want or enjoy “awful” things in our lives is scary and troubling to most people. We tend to think we only want or enjoy “good” things, or that we should only want “good” things. But acknowledging our secret bliss in “the bad stuff” doesn't have to be a troubling recognition; it's just a normal part of human nature. We all do it, and there doesn't need to be any shame or blame in it at all. In fact, setting aside shame and blame is what allows us to make the enjoyment conscious, and thereby
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