Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't)

by Carolyn Elliott

It's strange, but it's true. Jung said—and I'll repeat it a few times throughout this book—“Until you make the unconscious, conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it Fate.”

“Fear is excitement without the breath,”

Turn-on is magnetic. Now I was faced with the stark realization that I had been unconsciously magnetizing abuse and scarcity and rejection to myself all my life.

And then it dawned on me: Shit, I don't just have bedroom kink, I have existential kink. I have perverse desires for pain and bondage in my daily existence.

And maybe I can get more in touch with my divine nature by giving myself permission to like all the scary stuff in life, instead of just resenting it.

Dissolving unconscious patterns by making them conscious (and thereby integrating your being, your will) allows you to wake up out of this powerlessness and become the captain of the ship of your own life.

We are microcosmic reflections of the total holy macrocosm, and as such, we are each innately curious about and desirous for the full spectrum of potential experience, both the painful and the pleasurable, the evil and the good, the ugly and the beautiful.

As long as we insist that we absolutely don't want dark, freaky, unpleasant things, a major part of our full-spectrum human curiosity gets cut off, repressed, denied, and made unconscious.

In other words, the emotions and desires and positions that our ego disowns inevitably haunt us (personally and collectively) by generating painful synchronous experiences that urge us to confront and reintegrate the disdained side of a polarity.

It's as if all of us humans are light bulbs, and the Self is the electricity that powers us.

To cast a spell is to communicate with your personal unconscious and the collective unconscious in a way that generates specific results through synchronicity.

If you want to know who you unconsciously believe you are, just take a look at your life, your surroundings, your relationship. Your life mirrors those deep beliefs.

The concept is this: You are not who you think you are. Whoever you happen to think you are, I assure you, you are not that. I suggest that you remind yourself of this often, because it makes this work easier.

“Magic is indeed all in your head, but your head is a hell of a lot bigger than you think it is.” In other words, the whole “external” world is actually “within” consciousness.

When you fully commit to incarnation here, in this material plane, fully commit to being who-you-already-are-and-having-the-experience-you're-already-having with total orgasmic kinky joy—there's a paradox right there.