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March 2 - March 4, 2020
we are never not doing magic. We are always doing magic,
All of the aforementioned popular “vibration raising” practices have a way of brightening the light in our being, which tends to intensify and sharpen the presence of our latent darkness.
avoiding desire, aggression, and socially taboo experience doesn't help; avoidance only deepens the trap of aversion and attachment, which causes the wheel of illusion to keep spinning.
I propose that all our suffering and stuckness in life comes from forgetting that we're divine sparks playing a wild kinky game and that great miracles can come forth in our lives when we reverse the process of forgetting by deliberately reclaiming the pleasure of the game—not just in our minds, but in our hearts and genitals.
most of us are walking around with terribly divided wills, and thus a weakened ability to fulfill our true potential.
If you want to know who you unconsciously believe you are, just take a look at your life, your surroundings, your relationship. Your life mirrors those deep beliefs.
Exercising choice over how you perceive the sensations of happenings in your life and psyche is a profound step in releasing attachment to being “helpless” and at the mercy of “cruel fate.”
When you make a kinky game of it, you greatly expand your sense of agency, you unite your will, and you open up room for a sense of fun and playfulness to come into the scene.
The truth is you're allowed to experience bliss all the time, whether you're lying in a gutter, getting yelled at by your boss, getting ignored by your date, whatever.
every unpleasant feeling we have has an unconscious motivation. Some part of us believes that by feeling the yucky feeling, we'll “get” something that will enhance our survival.
Write it down in your journal: “I have a kinky, weird, fucked-up desire to ________ and I'm going to do it, just ‘cause I'm a nasty freak like that.”
With your consent, your previously unconscious sadistic prohibitions can resolve, thus emancipating the previously stuck energy in your psyche, which you are now free to put towards your creative endeavors.
The ego/conscious mind may think that it's frightened of failure and humiliation (in matters of wealth, love, body, creativity, etc.), but fear and desire ARE IDENTICAL.
“Hot damn, I am infinitely willing to feel every painful thing in the world! I'm the crazy, infinitely willing one!” That's who you are, simply, in honesty, already.
You already get off on all your shadow stuff, you just haven't let yourself know it yet.
The Work is a practice where you take a stressful thought and you question it, thereby releasing the grip it has over you, which eventually sets you free.
How do I know that you're a cosmic pain slut? Because this material world of ours is the world of apparent limits, constriction, gravity, finitude.
You wouldn't have incarnated here if you weren't attracted to the rollercoaster ride.
The essence of growth is to put more attention on context rather than on content.
What if worrying and doubting yourself and feeling lacking were just the tools that you use to distract yourself from the work of living centered within the high sensation and high energy of the bliss that is your inherent nature?
I'm saying: Adopt an aesthetic rather than a moral attitude to your feeling states. In doing this, you practice being the artist of your life rather than the judge of it.
Practice liking that you're feeling what you're feeling. Practice liking that you like what you like to feel. I know that sounds a bit silly, but most of us habitually practice not liking that we like what we like to feel. Why not try it the other way around?
In other words, at a fundamental level, we have all these reaction formations to hide our own saintliness, our own willingness to experience everything with total love. The most repressed item in your unconscious is your own total grace.
The thing about the ego is that it needs a sense of opposition, of refusal, of rejection in order to maintain itself. It has to say: “No! That is awful! I don't like that! No, that's not me!” to something in order to define itself as separate from the undulating whole of the weird fractal hologram of life.
You might notice that after a week of practicing Tonglen, you begin to feel a deep, soft sense of connection every time your painful affliction comes to your attention.
Tonglen is a great support practice for shadow integration work and is actually similar to EK—the key practice outlined in this book—in that it invites you to take the courageous step of feeling the pain fully and bravely, with good humor and kindness, without resistance or resentment, fear or shame, as a heroic act on behalf of all other beings who have the same pain.
paradoxically, your real power, your real specialness, your actual ability to influence and help others, rests in you ever-more-deeply understanding and enjoying your “garden variety-ness.”
Being fully willing to feel what's already present without contracting, without tensing into aversion (resentment) to avoid it—that is an exercise of your own deep divine power and sovereignty, that is the loving willingness that transforms, that transmutes.
Your problem is not that you torture others; it's that you don't torture them exquisitely enough.
On a physical, emotional, and intellectual level, I enjoy being bound by other people's beliefs and desires. It makes me feel self-righteous, and I take a huge amount of pleasure in making them feel guilty over how they've made me a victim.
So Existential Kink is different from the conventional Law of Attraction approach in that it says: don't ignore or deny those stark realities, go right into ‘em with tons of shameless sadomasochistic glee, enjoy the fuck out of ‘em, and be honestly happy instead of weird-denial-fake-happy.
I also (speaking as a human being and not as any kind of psychologist or medical professional, since I'm not those) recommend practicing Brahmavihara meditation as an antidote to depression.
