Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't)

by Carolyn Elliott

The unio mentalis is synonymous with having “a united will,” what ancient Greek thaumaturgists considered the absolute precondition to effective practical magic, or, in other words, the deliberate generation of positive synchronous experiences.

On Spell-casting To cast a spell is to communicate with your personal unconscious and the collective unconscious in a way that generates specific results through synchronicity. Believe it or not, you are casting spells at every single moment.

Many of us have unconsciously accepted conditioned identities as “wrong” or “broken” or “deserving of resentment” or “not deserving to be highly valued”—and so we continue to magically generate results that reflect and affirm that.

The brutal circumstances wrought by the collective are made up of unconscious individuals, so the more aware you personally become as an individual, the more you “clean up” your own influence on the collective.

Exercising choice over how you perceive the sensations of happenings in your life and psyche is a profound step in releasing attachment to being “helpless” and at the mercy of “cruel fate.”

To increase your self-honesty here, it can help to strongly imagine that the “don't like” situation will be utterly and completely removed from your life in just one month from now, as if “by the hand of God.”

What would it be like to live my life without ever using the feeling of guilt?

Maybe to keep me connected to familial poverty, that comforting container.

We get stuck when we look for “reasons” to motivate us to action, because some part of us knows that there simply is no “reason.” Many brilliant, wonderful people spend years mucking around in this swamp, propping themselves up with half-assed “reasons” for living, like not disappointing their family or friends. Such half-truths may keep you limping along, but they won't prompt you to truly get your shit together.

But we know that just insisting “No, I AM allowed to feel good about my worth! I am totally allowed to feel beautiful and powerful!” doesn't work for longer than a hot minute, or else everyone who ever tried affirmations would be a blissful saint by now.