Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't)

by Carolyn Elliott

when we perceive ourselves in an unhappy fashion, it is a guarantee that we will eventually unconsciously project that same perception of “badness” or “wrongness” onto our loved ones and (again, unconsciously) invite them to project that same “badness” or “wrongness” onto us. This is what one might call a vicious circle. The unconscious creative power of our perception and belief generates a seamless feedback loop that appears to be “objective reality” when actually it's an appearance called forth by our level of consciousness. The way to interrupt this feedback loop is to take total responsibility for the way that all other beings show up in relation to us.