A havingness level is a kind of internal imprint based on past family and cultural conditioning that determines the amount and kinds of sensation that you're willing to feel before some part of you unconsciously decides it's “too much” or “too good to be true” and then goes into fight, flight, or freeze—usually for some highly fictional (but seemingly factual) reason. I mention this “highly fictional reason” piece, because usually when a person has a havingness-level freak-out, they don't realize that they're experiencing a havingness level freak-out, that too much hot sensation and too much
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