Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't)

by Carolyn Elliott

For example: once I've realized that I'm fulfilling my previously unconscious desire to feel “not good enough” through various dramas in my life, and I go ahead and (madly, irrationally) celebrate the fulfillment of that dark desire that's happening in my dramas . . . . . . then that previously unconscious desire is free to morph into a desire to feel “good enough,” and I'm free to move on.