The Code of the Extraordinary Mind: 10 Unconventional Laws to Redefine Your Life and Succeed On Your Own Terms

by Vishen Lakhiani

STEP 1 IS SET THE SCENE. Bring to mind the scene or image where you will do the forgiveness exercise. For example, when I was forgiving myself for a bad business decision that cost me millions, I imagined seeing a younger version of myself facing me in my office from 2005. STEP 2 IS FEEL THE ANGER AND PAIN. For no more than two minutes (it’s okay to estimate), allow yourself to feel the pain and anger. It’s even okay to yell or pound a pillow. Let the emotions out, but don’t spend too long on this. STEP 3 IS FORGIVE INTO LOVE. Practice asking the questions I mentioned in Chapter 7: What did I learn from this? How did this situation make my life better? Also remember the idea of “hurt people, hurt people.” Ask: What could have happened in the past to this person to cause them to hurt me so? As you start asking these questions, you learn to see the situations from another’s perspective. The forgiveness may not come from one session, but no matter how grave the wrongdoing, the forgiveness can come. It just takes practice.