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June 15 - September 23, 2021
End goals have happiness baked into the pursuit.
Growth deepens our wisdom and awareness. It may be growth we choose or growth that chooses us. Growth makes life an endless journey of discovery.
Personal growth can and should happen throughout life, not just when we’re children.
Remember to focus on end goals—choosing learning opportunities where the joy is in the learning itself, and the learning is not merely a means to an end, such as a diploma.
if you want to be happy, make other people happy.
Don’t fall into society’s definition of family. Instead, create a new model of reality and think of family as those whom you truly love and want to spend time with.
You can do the Three Most Important Questions exercise alone or with others.
The Three Most Important Questions exercise is so important that we do it with every person who joins the Mindvalley team.
On a piece of letter-size paper, they draw three columns marked Experiences, Growth, and Contribution. Within the columns, they write down their visions and aspirations for each of the three areas.
Talking openly about your dreams and end goals helps to make them a reality.
BEGIN BY KEEPING IT SIMPLE.
But egoless does not mean “less than personal”; it means “more than personal.” Not personal minus, but personal PLUS—all the normal personal qualities plus some transpersonal ones.
I think there are many ways to be spiritual, and one of them is to be spirited—filled with forward-looking energy and the courage to challenge the status quo, like the scientists, entrepreneurs, and titans who are working on projects to push humanity forward. What could be more uplifting than that?
“The fear of loss is a path to the Dark Side…. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose.”
To truly be a great warrior in the world, you must step past your fears.
attachments to people and goals can hinder us.
It is possible to move toward a goal or to be madly in love with someone—without attachment.
Often what we really fear is not losing the other but losing that part of ourselves that this someone or something makes us feel. This happens when we attach our sense of self-worth and hap...
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Go ahead and love well. Work hard toward a goal, but know that when you make your feelings of love and fulfillment come from an internal reservoir and not from the other person or the goal, you become much stronger. In fact, you may discover that you can love better and pu...
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When you’re truly at peace and in touch with yourself. Nothing anyone says or does bothers you and no negativity can touch you.
Extraordinary minds do not need to seek validation from outside opinion or through the attainment of goals. Instead, they are truly at peace with themselves and the world around them. They live fearlessly—immune to criticism or praise and fueled by their own inner happiness and self-love.
A good end goal is something you have absolute control over. No object or person can take it away from you.
self-fueled end goals.
“To be consistently surrounded by love.”
setting goals for myself that are largely dependent on someone else leaves me powerless.
We should not be attached to receiving love from someone else.
“To be the best father I can be.”
empowered by my own self-love, I stopped unfairly demanding love from others.
“I will always have the most amazing and beautiful human experiences.”
“I am always learning and growing.”
When your goals change, your means of attainment change. A good goal can open up new and innovative ways of reaching it.
1. I will always be surrounded by love. 2. I will always have the most amazing and beautiful human experiences. 3. I will always be learning and growing.
Self-fueled goals require nothing but merely being alive and free.
Too many people stay stunted in their growth because of fear of loss—but
Replacing fear with courage is one of the key components of being unfuckwithable. Most people live their lives consistently bothered and worried about not being loved enough, about not succeeding fast enough, not being significant, not being impressive, losing the things that make us happy. But when you let go of the Brules that lead you to the wrong priorities, look beyond your means goals and create self-fueled end goals, you’ve effectively bother-proofed yourself. You stop worrying about what others will think of you or might take from you, and you free yourself to dream big and be creative
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When you become unfuckwithable, it doesn’t mean you’re settling for small goals. Instead, it means you’ve stopped setting goals for things you think you need to get from other people.
My happiness in the now fuels my vision for the future, and that vision fuels my happiness, because a key part of it (love, learning, and human experiences) is already happening. It all connects.
Have goals. But your happiness should not be attached to the completion of your goals. The feeling you get from completing those goals you can learn to generate now.
While you can’t control what others do, you can control how you react to others. In order to be truly unfuckwithable, you need to lose your need to seek validation or love from others and to judge them when you perceive that they are not giving you what you need.
When you plug this hole within yourself and stop demanding that others fill it for you, you actually improve the chances of having the kind of great relationships you long for.
There is nothing more attractive than a person who loves himself or herself so deeply that their positive energy and love spill over to others and to the world.
You know you have a hole to plug when you find yourself feeling hurt or creating meaning around someone else’s action or words.
The key is to override our inner desire to prove ourselves or our tendency to feel as if we’re not enough without the love or validation of others.
When you look back at the formative experiences of your life—whether they are the most painful or the most positive—you’re likely to find your meaning-making machine running on high.
In order to be unfuckwithable, we need to be immune to such words and actions—to praise as well as to criticism.
Every time you give someone the power to build you up with praise, you’re also unknowingly giving that person the power to destroy you with criticism.
accept praise and criticism as nothing more than someone else’s expressions of their models of reality. They have noth...
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we should be able to feel secure and complete in our own skin without other...
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One of Kamal’s techniques is for you to look at yourself in the mirror and say the words, “I love you.”
Talking to yourself in the mirror is like speaking directly to your own soul—especially when you’re gazing at yourself in the eye.
