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June 15 - September 23, 2021
Remember to ask yourself: What are the beliefs my child is going to take away from this encounter?
Why questions corner a child and put the child on the defensive.
Think about a quality or an action of yours that made you proud today. Maybe nobody else told you that they appreciated it, but it’s time that you affirmed it for yourself.
we can take responsibility to heal ourselves now by giving ourselves the love and appreciation we once craved.
Your external models of reality are the beliefs you have about the world around you.
Human beings can function as logical beings and as intuitive beings. When we use both capabilities, we’re priming ourselves for extraordinary results.
I believe human intuition is real, and with practice we can get better at tuning into it for decision making.
I do not believe you can foretell the future, but I do believe in gut instinct in decision making.
I try to listen to my gut on a daily basis. See what happens when yo...
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Mind-body healing involves the conscious practice of certain mindfulness or visualization techniques to heal certain aspects of yourself.
It’s possible to bring a culture of happiness to any work environment. Whether you’re a CEO or a freelancer, an assistant or a manager, it is critically important that you find a way to enjoy your work.
happiness and work need to go hand in hand.
pick and choose depending on how empowering these models feel.
many things are only relative truth:
Is your model of reality absolute truth or relative truth?
If you have a model that isn’t scientifically validated, feel free to challenge it.
Is there an aspect of your culture you know is relative truth for the greater part of humanity? If you still enjoy believing it, do so. But if it’s harmful or results in your having to dress in a certain way, marry in a certain way, or restrict your diet or life in a way you dislike, you owe it to yourself to abandon it. Brules are made to be broken.
Know that whatever your culture trained you to believe, the vast majority of human beings probably do not believe.
The power to choose what we want to believe and what we want to disbelieve is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves.
The best advice is often to listen to your heart and intuition. Remember that our models of reality all have expiration dates. Even what we take to be absolute truth today may not always be a truth in the future.
we can manufacture as many as 500 different “meanings” a week. But as we learn to ask ourselves, Is this really true? Am 1100 percent sure that this is what’s really going on?—we start to reduce the number of meanings.
those who had their meaning-making machines under control at work were more effective leaders.
the best thing we can do with outdated models of reality is to let them go gracefully. Turn them into history.
Constantly think about how you could be doing things better and questioning yourself.
It’s all about finding and hiring people smarter than you, getting them to join your business and giving them good work, then getting out of the way and trusting them. You have to get out of the way so you can focus on the bigger vision. That’s important, but here is the main thing: You must make them see their work as a mission.
His focus is on hiring smart people, giving them freedom and getting out of the way, and continuously thinking of the vision, ensuring that a mission was driving the company.
A system for living is a repeated, optimized pattern for getting things done.
to do more and create more, in less time, while having more fun.
When you optimize your systems for living, you can experience exponential growth in areas that truly matter to you.
Extraordinary people don’t just have extraordinary models of reality. They strive to ensure that their systems for living—that is, DOING what they do in the world—are well defined, structured, and continuously optimized.
I try to upgrade at least one of my systems for living every week, not because I feel like things are always broken but because I know how energizing it is to try something new. It’s exciting to think that we can just swap in a new system like downloading a new app.
I make it a habit to read nonfiction books on a wide variety of topics that matter to me, such as parenting, work, and exercise, and to continually discover new systems.
Think of it like browsing the App Store. It can be fun and enlightening when you find something that seems to work for others and might also work for you.
Is your new system for living really better than a previous one?
get out of the office and ask himself big, tough questions, and then he says that the inspiration for his business ideas often comes to him. He makes sure that he gives himself the space and time to do this.
This is why people like Patrick get out of the office and find the time and space to question their systems and set new, bolder goals.
Awareness is the essence of discovery.
step back from what you’re doing and seek to discover new ways to do it better.
discovery is a life-affirming tool. It’s not just about making life a little more interesting. It allows you to be better at what you want to do.
Surely all of us can find the time to think in a different way about how to solve our own problems—massive or otherwise.
Keeping your systems fresh is a system in itself. Your frequency of doing this is your refresh rate.
The important thing is to remember to study and invest in learning about how to improve your systems for living.
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. I read this book seven times before I turned twenty; an amazing book for anyone.
Want to jump-start your progress? Aim to read one book a week.
Reading is an easy and excellent way to boost your refresh rate. But you should also consider online courses, masterminds, networking groups, and seminars.
The more you seek opportunities to learn and then apply your learnings, the faster your refresh rate.
Things slip when we don’t have a detection method for knowing when it’s happening. Set points are that detection method.
A set point is simply a bare-minimum threshold you establish for yourself that you promise you will not go below.
A set point differs from a goal. Goals pull you forward, while set points help you maintain what you have. You need both.
A great set point here is to read at least two books per month.
