Nordic Ideology: A Metamodern Guide to Politics, Book Two

by Hanzi Freinacht

It’s that we are too poor at taking the perspectives of one another across genders and sexualities; it’s that we are too insecure about our own positive gender identities; it’s that we have lacking social skills to entertain and seduce one another in playful and respectful ways; it’s that we know too little about the social dynamics between the sexes; it’s that we carry too much subtle dissatisfaction and bitterness; it’s that we simply have had too few and insufficiently instructive sexual experiences; it’s that we feel good romantic and sexual relations are scarce rather than abundant in our lives; it’s that we have too few reliable friends with whom we can really talk about these issues; it’s that we don’t feel safe and comfortable enough to express our needs and insecurities to one another; that we are unable to listen and take it in when others talk about intimate and sensitive matters; that we’re not good enough in setting and maintaining healthy social boundaries; that we don’t manage to show sufficient respect for one another’s boundaries; that we have insufficient self-knowledge about our innermost needs in the first place; that we don’t feel we can afford brutal and direct honesty—the list goes on. Do you see it? It’s not some evil structure out there. It’s our own lacking development. We—as human beings, as biological, behavioral organisms—lack the right properties to interact in good enough ways.