While still in graduate school, Felix once said to me during a therapy session, “I know this is going to set psychoanalysis back a hundred years, but until I got fucked, I didn’t know what it meant to be a real person. It was the first time I felt I was whole. It was an experience I wouldn’t give back for anything.” It is not clear whether the physical act of sex instinctually informs the emotion, or the conscious and unconscious emotion interpret the act and give it its meaning. I believe it works both ways, simultaneously. Human sex is magic.
