Gay men crafting their lives and relationships must try to reconstruct one important principle that society and its conventional relationships have persistently distorted. This is the principle of fidelity as honesty and truth. Fidelity is not about the appearance or reality of monogamy, or guarantees of lifelong love that no one can honestly make. Fidelity—the real fidelity that makes relationships important and humanly decent—is simply about being truthful. When a relationship does not provide something one partner needs, is otherwise in difficulty, or clearly no longer works, fidelity is
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