I devoted years of my life to quietly blaming my mum for how things had turned out for me. My punishment (although I didn’t know it at the time) was to distance myself from her, to be stingy with my whole self, to reveal myself in very small doses to her. I had become a resentful, angry, and disconnected man. I had spent so much time focusing on what I thought my mum should have done or shouldn’t have done that I completely lost sight of what she actually did do.
