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How could that be? It is simply the result of the fact that while we are all born to excel, and reach our full potential, with our whole lives in front of us, something happens to interrupt that process. What happens next is that the programs we receive end up forming what we believe, and what we think about everything. Our programs tell us who we are, and even what we will—or will not do—with our lives.
If any of your self-talk is inaccurate and negative, change it. Choose to reprogram your own brain with the right, positive self-talk, the right messages––the ones that should have been given to you in the first place.
been wiring and changing your brain. Your Brain Believes What it is Told Most Deep inside the workings of the human brain, there is no actual ‘truth.’ The part of the brain that stores all of the messages
But when that same message is repeated frequently, usually over time, your brain begins to form new neural connections. It wires the new message into, and connects it with, the vast neural networks of your conscious and unconscious mind.
It is because the brain stores messages that are repeated, that we end up believing what we believe about most everything––as we just saw in the example of why we believe in the politics we follow.
Whatever messages you got from the world you live in, combined with what your experiences have caused you to say to yourself in your own self-talk,
However, subsequent brain research has shown an entirely different story: People who have trained their brains to think in the positive, actually wire more neural networks into the left prefrontal cortex of their brain. That’s a part of the brain that helps you seek options and alternatives, helps you find a better way to deal with the problem, and puts you into positive action.
The obvious solution to this problem would be to get rid of the mental programs you have that are negative, and to make sure you have enough positive programs stored in your subconscious mind to ensure that your attitudes and actions will also be positive.
As an example, imagine that you’ve just made a mistake, and you hear yourself saying something like, “I’m so stupid.” Immediately replace it with, “That’s not like me. I’m smarter than that.” Or, when you hear yourself about to say, "Nothing ever works out right for me," replace the negative with a clear, new positive directive to your brain: "I am good at making things work. I have a plan, I follow it, I stay with it, and I achieve my goal."
Learning to edit your thoughts and your words is an essential step, but it doesn't get rid of all of the old negative programs you have stored up. Editing will, however, help protect you from getting more of them.
Being in Control of Your Life Are you on top, in control of your life, and going for it? What is your self-talk
talk when you think or talk about being in control?
How You Deal With Problems Does your self-talk describe you as being on top of your game, and always dealing with problems well? Rate your self-talk about dealing with problems: ______
Your Stress Does your self-talk show a picture of you that is relaxed, calm, and in control, or does it show you that you have too much stress in your life? Rate your self-talk about your stress and your daily sense of calm: ______
Your Sense of ‘Purpose’ in Life What
do you say about your purpose or your mission in life? Is your purpose crystal clear, or do you need more clarity in this area? Rate your self-talk about
and how you choose to be: I build self-esteem every day. I talk to myself, and in just the right way. I always do everything it takes to make sure that my self-esteem is strong, positive, and working for me in the best possible way.
never put myself down. I always build myself up. I have strong, positive pride in who I am. I let other people know it, and I let myself know it. I stand tall. I think sharp. I look good. And I am in control of my life, and I like who I am. That's me. That's who I choose to be. I allow nothing to stand between me and my most positive self-esteem. Every morning when I awake, I make the conscious choice to feel good about myself all day. I have learned to say the words of self-talk which tell me, "I like myself. I'm glad to be me. Today is my day."
But if you choose to change your self-talk––and make the commitment to stay with it long enough to create a new self-talk habit––then that habit, itself, will become wired into your brain. Once that happens, your own brain will begin to motivate you to continue. When you reach that point, life begins to change. You will personally be in control.
The reason people achieve reliable success with this is that the brain is designed to rewire itself. So, if you learn how to rewire your brain in the right way, your brain has no choice. It will do what it was designed to do. The key is to make your brain's natural programming process work for you instead of against you.
The answer is that your brain doesn’t care whether you believe it or not. If you change the repeated messages you give to your brain, it will record
them, wire them in, and act on them. It has no choice.
In your brain, the strongest programs win. That means that if you have strong, positive programs yourself, you will be less likely to be influenced by the negative programs of people around you, or other input sources like today's often negative internet posts, and even television news. You can’t change the world's negative programs, but you can make sure that the programs you have are very strong and very positive. When you do that, your stronger, more positive programs will override the negatives you hear from others. Don’t be surprised, however, that when you start practicing self-talk, you
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yourself watching fewer programs on television that focus on bad news.
Instead of spending time focusing on your old, negative programs, focus instead on a new decision to learn and practice the new language of positive self-talk. Then, stick with it. In time, the new programs will replace the old.
People who practice positive self-talk typically find that they reduce stress in their life, and create more peace of mind.
Changing your self-talk improves your quality of life. You see things in a brighter, more optimistic way, and you are able to deal with problems more effectively.
Monitor, edit, listen, and practice. And don’t stop. My hope for you is that you do exactly that.
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