Dolly senses the urgency and fear in my voice and immediately transforms into my official guide. At a rapid pace, she begins firing off advice, as if I’ve just told her we need to diffuse a bomb and only she can talk me through it. “OK, a good playlist is really important. I’m amazed at dinner parties where there’s no music playing and the overhead lights are on. You need to have all the lamps on, lots of candles, and you need to have a great playlist of music people love,” Dolly says.