love must drive these conversations. We must hold love in our hearts, whether we are pushing away or inviting in. In the case of the former, speaking the truth in love is not just about not hurting someone’s feelings; it’s about being a decent human being who lives life with some level of empathy. We all need someone who can tell us about ourselves. Someone we trust who ultimately has our best interests at heart. Someone to whom we can say, “I know you’re saying this to me because you love me, not because you’re trying to control me.” When compassion shows up in the conversation, compassion
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