Dismissive-avoidant attachment looks like someone who doesn’t need other people. This is an illusion, of course. All humans need intimacy with others in order to be stable. People with this attachment style learned to avoid showing needs to their caregiver based on how their caregiver reacted when they expressed their needs. As adults, they launch preemptive strikes against rejection by hiding their need for connection with the people they love. They appear detached or aloof in relationships, and they avoid relying or depending on others. In times of conflict, dismissive-avoidant types have
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