after our conversation, Bonilla changed her mind and gave me permission to use her full name. “It’s not fair for me to hide myself,” she said. “I want people to learn from my experiences and be able to contact me if they need encouragement to do something they are scared of.” In her decision to use her real name, she seemed to me to be at the top of some obstacle, reaching out. Wanting to grab a stranger’s hand, pull them up, and carry them over.
