After my third round of arguments with Joel, something shifted in me. It wasn’t alarm. It wasn’t a need to control Joel’s behavior. It was a moment of release. I recognized that Joel was operating from a deeper place of wisdom than I was operating from. I had been dismissing Joel because I thought he had to be handled. I thought I knew what needed to happen next in the room. But I decided to unknow my plan and to see what might happen if I followed Joel’s lead. I agreed to Joel’s demand, and he returned to his seat.
