“I don’t know the right choice; I can’t tell you what to do. But I can tell you this much. If you get to the grief, you’ve loved a person well. Most people don’t ever get to the tears. They’ve given up long ago. But you,” I told my friend, “you’ve loved a person deep into the pain. So the sadness, while hard, is holy ground. Our tears are sacraments, visible signs of the invisible grace of a loved poured out.”
