Our culture wants it to be that simple—to believe so badly that all gay men sound like women—because that makes it easier to size them up and potentially ridicule them. Thus, the stereotype prevails. “Why do you think gay men sometimes reject other gay men for sounding gay?” David Thorpe asks gay media pundit Dan Savage. “Misogyny,” Savage responds. “They want to prove to the culture that they’re not not men—that they’re good because they’re not women. . . . And then they punish gay men who they perceive as being feminine in any way.”
