Don't You Forget About Me

by Mhairi McFarlane

It never feels real or finally sinks in. That moment never arrives. The world continues, but with a bit always missing. And meanwhile you’re getting on with it, until it’s found.”

I’m pleased to have an intro now. I don’t want to stop talking about him. Lord help me, I’m back on my bullshit.

“Sometimes because the people we wanted to care for us, didn’t care for us, we live with a deliberate lack of care for ourselves. A way of getting back at them, through self-neglect.”

I’m not going to do this anymore—feel I’m validated by male interest, or get involved with whoever turns up. It’s OK to turn nice guys down. I’m fine as I am.

if your partner makes your social life much harder for you, you might have picked the wrong partner.